One of my biggest pet peeves in a relationship is when your friends are TOO involved. Of course, we're human and we all have friends, but sometimes your friends can ruin a good thing when you have it.
I've struggled with this several times in the past before and it definitely is no fun. There's nothing worse than having a boyfriend that is absolutely obsessed with his friends. It's totally normal to hang out with your friends from time to time but when it comes down to hanging out with them every night, eating, sleeping, & breathing with them...Well, it's a little much.
It may sound selfish, but let's be honest, girls don't like sharing their man! The simple hang outs with your friends can lead to many, many things guys. & trust me, it's not a road you want to go down.
Women like to know that they are thought about and cared for. We actually enjoy spending time with our boyfriends or the current guy we're talking to. At some point in your life you're friends shouldn't come first anymore. When you're with your bros 24/7, after awhile, we see it as you're choosing them over us.
Relationships come with sacrifices and there's no way getting around that. So boys, if you have a good girl by your side, think twice next time when you send that simple little text saying you're hanging with your boys for the night. It's nice to put your girl first every now and then. It's thoughtful and shows that you have your priorities straight & really care.
It's definitely hard to find that balance between friends and boyfriend. I know that in time, your boyfriend can become your best friend :) With school, work, and homework, there's just not enough time to fit all of them in. Time for sacrifice! It helps if they are all willing to hang out together without feeling thirdwheelish. Also, I wish friends would be more understanding about it!
ReplyDeleteI agree Sarah and I have been that extra person a few times and I have found that as long as everyone is happy with the situation then everything is fine.
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